Almost every woman will have been hit on by a guy in a bar at some point in their lives. Mr Tan-Tastic. The Roid-Rager.
A friend of mine who lives in Boston once told me that straight guys from Boston loved girls from New York City because they were so much friendlier at bars. He acted out a scene for me where he used an oddly low voice for himself and an impressively high, piercing voice for the girl such vocal range! About a month later, I went to visit a friend in Boston.
While it might be tempting to give a guy who you are not attracted to the "don't even try it" brush off, bartenders say that it's in your best interest to be friendly to those around you—even the guys you aren't thrilled approached you. Don't worry, not ours either.
Both places tend to attract a more mature, discerning clientele and as an added bonus often close earlier in the evening, before things get sloppy. Home Relationships.
How to *actually* meet someone at a bar
Pairs beget pairs. Common curtesy aside, as a man I can tell you that other guys will notice if you just give the cold shoulder—and will be discouraged from trying for themselves. Prefer not to start a conversation? Curb your drinking.
Photo Credit: Ryan Flynn Photography. Give guys reasons and opportunities to start one with you.
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To prove it, I asked the people who would know best: the bartenders watching this happen day in, day out. When you wear your ring, your guy might be reminded of these three things. Make yourself noticed. What gives? The truth is, people really do meet their S. Are they just the lucky ones who struck gold?
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Fellow Verily writer Justin and I have already covered here and here that one of the biggest obstacles to meeting women in the bar is their own group of friends, to which Miranda can attest. In reality, it tends to lead to too much time in dead-end conversations or something resembling conversations with the wrong people. Even so, I was still a bit surprised to find that most bartenders had relatively simple advice to offer. Two is the magic here. What is the ideal time to meet someone at the bar?
Order a unique drink confidently. The general consensus was to be yourself, be friendly and polite, and focus on having a good time instead any agenda to meet the man of your dreams. Here's what they had to say.
By Grace Zedler. For those of us who are single and looking for real love, going to the bar is more than just a fun way to enjoy a night out with friends. The bar represents a world of possibility—at least in theory.
Also, loyalty comes into play. Katy suggested going to different sorts of bars: if you want to stay casual and approachable, try one of the many brewery taprooms.